What to do if your child is being bullied.
40% of children have reported being bullied in the last 12 months, with 6% being targeted daily, it’s important that bullying is stopped altogether. Some parents might not know what to do or what to say when they find out that their child is being bullied. Further down, you will see some advice so that parents know what steps to take if they find out their child is being bullied.
There are several pieces of advice which tell you what to do when you find out that your child is being bullied:
Tell the school about what’s going on. They’ll listen to what your child has to say, and they should be able to sort the bullying out.
Get your child to talk about what has been going on. Talking to parents usually helps as they can then help your child. Without your child speaking up, parents won’t know what’s going on and might not be able to help until they talk.
Encourage your child to participate in school activities. This will increase their confidence and could also help them make new friends. School activities will also motivate them to go into school as over 16,000 children are absent from school at any time because of bullying.
If your child is getting bullied over social media, delete the person and then block the person so they can’t contact them.
It’s important that your child feels that they have somewhere safe to go, even if they don’t want to talk to you.
Before speaking to school or anyone else, tell your child that you’re going to do this so that they know what will be happening. This is to calm their fears.
Tell your child that they have your full support. This would mean a lot to them while they are going through this hard time.
If your child won’t speak to you, try and get them to speak to a professional service that helps with bullying.
Tell your child to keep away from the bully/bullies.
Ask your child who their favourite teacher at school is and then talk to them. It might put them at ease knowing that they can talk to someone who they like and know well.
Here are some stats about Bullying:
- 40% of young people were bullied in the last 12 months
- 6% of all young people had experienced bullying daily. 9% between once a week and once a month.
- Most common form of bullying was name calling (including via text and email) at 26%, followed by exclusion from social groups at 18%
- 21% of children who had experienced bullying daily had truanted in the last 12 months – 3 times the proportion of those who were not bullied. Young people who had experienced bullying daily also most likely to truant for the longest period of time. Girls almost twice a likely to truant because of bullying than boys.
- 24% of children bullied most days also most likely to be kept off school by their parents.
- 15% of children who had experienced bullying daily had been excluded from school in the last 12 months (compared to 5% of children not bullied)
- 1 in 4 young people with SEN (special educational needs) experienced violence (actual or threatened)
- Actual violence was more likely to always take place at school compared to other forms of bullying
For more information about Bullying and what to do about it, Bullying UK explains it more. http://www.bullying.co.uk/bullying-at-school/advice-on-contacting-your-child-s-school-about-bullying/
Also if you would like someone to talk to about bullying or would like some information, contact us on 01743 254400.